I know that my way is the right way to see it!!.........................................
The ways in which a man and a woman can misunderstand each other is incredible. My wife and I were going out golfing the other day. It was rather nippy in the air at 8 in the morning here in VA. My wife suggested to me that perhaps I could wear my pullover that we got at a tournament we played in a few years back, " Then we would match!", she said with a grin. My reply was exactly what I think most men would say in this situation. "NO way!" She clearly felt that I was being nasty, so as I went back into the house, I slipped it on so that she would be pleased. I could tell she felt honored by my gesture... which is what I was trying to do. On the ride we discussed this issue. Here are the two completely differing opinions on the subject from a man and a woman.
I told her that to me, wearing a matching oufit shows the world that here is a man who is a pussy. He is pushed around by his wife, she wears the proverbial pants in that family! He can't make his own decisions, she even dresses him; like one of her children! I can hear people in the distance saying........poor guy; she's emasculated him. Here is where I layed it on thick and told her that though all these things are true, I was still willing to wear it because I love you and want to please you, even at the expense of my reputation as a man.
She then tells me that for me to be offended at the idea of wearing matching outfits is an insult to her! That contrary to what I was saying, it shows that I am a real man who is willing to identify with his woman and tell the world that we are one as a couple. A man who is not afraid of what others think. It makes her sad that I didn't want to wear a matching outfit. My unwillingness is a reflection somehow on how I feel about her. I got the sense that she was somewhat dumbfounded that I wasn't excited at the opportunity to be dressed up in similar garb.
It confuses me how wrong she can be about why I didn't want to wear the pullover. It equally confounds her why I don't "get it". I sometimes think I understand my wife, but situations like that one remind me that I have a lot to learn. Actually, I think I have officially given up on trying to understand the ways of a woman. I am resolved to just accept the fact that I will never understand. I'm OK with never "getting it". Men are different than women............THANK GOD!!